Church Wedding

[Minnie]

My mother wants me to get married in church, not because she is a regular church goer - but simply because she thinks it looks better!! I am not religious at all neither is my groom to be - so i need advice. Shall I go ahead with a church do to keep mum and others happy. If I had definate ideas of my own then I would tell my mum "no i would prefer to marry in a castle" or something like that - but as i am undecided myself I have not really got much of an argument have I?

advice please

[grink]

Well whatever you do don't go and see the vicar I just did!

Anyway I think you and your fiance should sit down and really discuss what you want from your wedding. Then you will be able to talk about more definate ideas to you mum. I want to marry in a church simply because it is in my village, very beautiful, and many of my family have married there.

[chris]

Minnie, I really think that before you make a final decision about where to hold the wedding, you should discuss it with your H2B, then talk your decision over with your Mum, be gentle but firm if you don't want a church wedding...it is your day after all.
Another suggestion is a civil ceremony, then a church blessing...perhps after the honeymoon...just a suggestion.

chris

[Louise]

Mothers are supposed to help you make your day go smoothly but having read many postings it seems they make the biggest hurdles. If she isn't paying for it then I don't see what say she has in it to be perfectly honest

[titianmac]

weddings are a nightmare aren't they... ihope these h2b's realise the love we must have to endure the run up!
Of all the hurdles i'm jumping for our wedding plans the one thing i hadnt planned to stumble on was that my dad assumed I was having a church wedding.When we started planning all we knew was that it wouldn't be in a church or even involve a blessing. We're just not religious.
The important thing now is that i explained why and although not "happy" dad is accepting of the situation. He still gets to walk me up an aisle as a blushing bride and fingers crossed all will go well.
Be brave and stick to your guns... whatever they end up being!

[sillygal]

I have to admit we are having a church wedding even though neither of us are big church goers ourselves, just fancied being a bit traditional for a day. You have to do what you want to do at the end of the day.

[Derekpen]

This may be a chicken and egg situation!.

Until you have alternative venues that are viable and practical, you don't have much of a counter point.

Once you have researched just what and where is available you can't begin to plan an "Alternative Wedding".

Maybe mum just hates the usual alternative of a "Registry Office".

Check out the area, ask the local registrar for "A LIST OF APPROVED PLACES WHERE CIVIL CEREMONIES CAN BE HELD".

You may just find the inspiration that will please all of you.
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Many Thanks.

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[zzrangel]

I am the same as you, i am not religious in anyway. The last time i was taking part in a religious ceremony was when i was at my own christening!!!

My fiance wanted to get married in a church, so we chose to get married in a unitarian church where every belief or non belief is understood and everyone respects each others opinions about whats out there.

The vicar is a very down to earth guy, lets us do whatever we want and to top it he is a fraction of the price that a Church Of England charge!!

Jackie xx[/b]

[Andi]

Hi zzrangel

That sounds really ideal for a couple that I know who have been putting off marriage because of differences/indiference to religion. Are there many of these unitarian Churches about, as I have not heard of them before, is it a little like humanist?

Which church is it that you are marrying at?