Who for Bridesmaid

[Louise]

I can only really afford 4 bridesmaids tops. I have 3 sisters, only one of which I am close to but how can you have one without the other two then the other problem is that I have 2 very very close friends who I would die if I couldn't have for my bridesmaids. The icing on the top of the cake is that my boyfriend has 1 sister and 1 sister in law. My mum says that if you are having bridesmaids then one should be from the grooms side

so thats 7 I am not even going to count little cousins for flower girls thats totally out of the question because there is too many of them. I can drop the sister in law but what about his sister and my sisters

[winter]

Not 100% sure on this - but are the bridesmaids supposed to pay for their own dresses? if so.. or if you can say to them all that you would love them to be your bridesmaids but they will have to help pay the cost, then if they really want to be bridesmaids they can pay for their dresses

[Dlargey]

Its not just the cost of the dresses though is it! theres shoes, hair, head peices, flowers, nails etc etc

If you are going to get the bridesmaids to pay for their own appearence then make sure they know exactly what they are going to be paying for

[les_251181]

When it came to choosing my bridesmaids (3) I really thought that as I had 1 sister that she must be one of my bridesmaids.

I chose my best friend as chief bridesmaid, a close friend as b'maid and then my sister.

Truth is, my sister and I really aren't that close. it just seemed right as she was after all my Sister! About 2 months ago, me and my sister fell out, and came within inches of a fight with eachother, she said that she was jealous (incase you wondered).

So, now I'm having my future sister in law (eldest of the two) who I get along with great to replace my sister.

I think that you should have your two close friends and the sister you're closest with.

It's who you get along with the best, who 'YOU' want.

You'd just have to say that this is who you've decided on for the day. You could always get them a corsage or something that's a little different to everyone elses, perhaps with 1 or more flowers in that you've got in your bouquet? that would bring them back in to it all in a way.

My sister has been stopped from attanding my wedding full stop, so if you can have your closest sister there with you, and two great friends... I say go for it. It's your special day.

[Louise]

I think I need to be a bit stronger and a bit more decisive like you Les. I just don't want the arguments or the idea of my other sisters ranting behind my back

are you and your sister on speaking terms at all?

[les_251181]

My sister and I are not speaking at all. My mum said that she was quite happy until mam got pregnant with me, then my sister just got jealous of everything and resented me.

At least her not being at my wedding means there's no risk of her ruining my day.

Her son (my nephew) is going to be page boy (along with my son, who'll be almost 2 at the time of the wedding), so she's going to miss her son all kitted out with all the gear. Though it is her own doing. I'd rather it this way, likelyhood is she'd spoilt it for me and my fiance some how. It's sad, she's almost 28 (i'm 22) and yet she acts so childish still.

I would have a chat with your closest sister, explain to her what you wish to do. Perhaps she could help tell the others? I think that either way the girls will respect your wishes.Ok they might have a sense of disappointment, but that won't last.

When it comes down to it babe, it's your day, and you should have everything how YOU want it to be.

Do let me know if anything developes!

Love

Les xx
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[les_251181]

...have had an afterthought....for my bridesmaids, I asked them all to buy their own shoes, something they'd wear again or dye after the wedding to use again.

They were fine with that. Their necklaces and earrings I got made by someone on ebay (can put you in touch if you want - she does vintage crystal handmade jewellery)

All the flowers I'm doing myself too.

I've found all of the above has really reduced the cost of the bridesmaids gear.

Love

Les xx

[titianmac]

Did you get it sorted yet Louise?!
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[Pinkie]

We are just having my daughter as a flower girl, no bridesmaids as such. There are far too many adult females in the family not to mention my friends, so we decided just make the day exclusively my daughters honour.

[Louise]

after all the carry on one of my best friends cannot be bridesmaid because she is expecting a baby on the wedding date.
How inconvenient of her!!

[titianmac]

After all the trouble i've endured with my 4 bridesmaids i'm considering hiring them out as a pre trained, fully accessorised job lot... would that help? I'll offer you a good deal!!!
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[Louise]

excellent Can you also persuade them that the cleaning of the bridal house is also part of the bridesmaid duties

I am reading your Diary with interest Titianmac. Didn't want to interupt the flow with a comment to that effect on your Diary as it would spoil it. OMG not long now waaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[titianmac]

2 are domestic godesses, ones a student (say no more) and the other one lives in a land thats pink and fluffy. Sadly if they wont work for me they wont work for the masses... but fair play for asking!

(Glad to see you're nosing at the diary thought it'd be fun- my comment re the time left.. "waaaaaaaahhhhhh indeed!!!")
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[londongal]

Hi louise and titanmac

I am reading too. Its great. I didnt want to spoil it by making a comment on it either.