Religion for the unreligious

[penny]

My friend is getting married (she really is my friend I am not doing one of those 'my friend' when its really me type things) aaanyway poor love dosen't have internet access so not only is she missing out on all the lovely bargains and advise she also has only me and a few other loonies to talk to about her problem

Aaaanyway. She is not religious in any way, shape or form. Its not even an agnostic thing she is actually against organised religion so she is in a huge dilema. Her Mother is kicking up a stink to end all stinks about her getting married in a church. I have told her as you will all be thinking now that it is her desision and nobody elses but she is really getting brow beaten about it. I actually think that from what she has been saying that if she does not get married in church her mother will wash her hands of her, and the entire family has taken her mothers side, spouting that weddings are about god blah blah blah.

What does she do?

[bamby]

I would hate to fall out with my family over something like this. The way I see it is that until a few years ago you could marry in either a church or a registry office end of story. So many married in church even though they were not religious because their local registry office was a bit crap. What I would suggest your friend does is marry in a church for her mothers and family's sake but make the service as un religious as possible. I.e choose music that she likes rather than religious music and keep the service as unreligious as possible in a church. It can be done to suit all parties

[Wenlee]

Is it a specific church that her mother wants her to get married in? perhaps it is a tration for members of that family to marry there and in that case it dosen't hurt to go with tradition.

If its because her mother is religious and thinks weddings should be before god etc. Then how about getting married at a congragational or methodist church which are less formal in the way they conduct weddings.

I personally think the girls mother is horrendous to put that sort of pressure on someone, and she should just be happy that her daughter is getting married

[Guest]

If that was my mother i would tell her to p*** off

[Spanky]

I think her mum should get real, however I am aware that mothers rarely get real. Is her mum paying for anything? you tend to find they insist in having alot more say about the proceedings if they do

[penny]

**UPDATE**

She has had enough and has decided to get married in Antigua. Her mother is annoyed as hell, but she is passed caring hahaha. I think she is doing the right thing. I just need to talk her into paying for me to go with her

[titianmac]

Be sure to tell her mum that God can be with you anywhere! followed by a quite little "haha "
Lets hope your friend manages to find a balance of happiness and has a fab day.